VALUE OF LISTENING

HOW TO BE A BETTER LISTENER WHERE EVERY ONE IS TALKING;

Originally published on JOTFORM.COM

"Oh yeah, you're right," he answers.
It's the second morning of my visit to our San Francisco office.
Between my colleague and I lie a computer screen, a smartphone face-up, and a time-sensitive issue that I'm trying to explain.
Even though he makes eye contact and offers the occasional nod or "mm-hmm," his eyes often dart back to his screen.
I know he is not listening. Apparently, only about 10 percent of us listen effectively. And when we don't listen — I mean really listen — we shortchange ourselves and our

GREAT LISTENERS - HOW THEY DO IT

WHAT GREAT LISTENERS ACTUALLY DO
Chances are you think you’re a good listener.  People’s appraisal of their listening ability is much like their assessment of their driving skills, in that the great bulk of adults think they’re above average.
In our experience, most people think good listening comes down to doing three things:

LISTENING - THE LEADERSHIP TOOL

LISTENING IS AN OVEROOKED LEADERSHIP TOOL

“What do you think?”

I ask this question a lot. My team knows that when they come to me with a question, this is likely the question I’ll come back with first. Sometimes I even preface it with, “I don’t know.” As leaders in our organizations, it’s up to us to coach colleagues and our employees through finding that answer. More often than not, when I ask this question, my team has a better answer than I do — or one that I hadn’t thought about before.

DUNNING AND KRUGER EFFECT

What Is the Dunning-Kruger Effect?

The Dunning-Kruger effect is a type of cognitive bias in which people believe that they are smarter and more capable than they really are. Essentially, low ability people do not possess the skills needed to recognize their own incompetence. The combination of poor self-awareness and low cognitive ability leads them to overestimate their own capabilities.

WAYS TO ACT - BHISHMA OR JATAYU

*THE BHISMA WAY or THE JATAYU WAY*:    

"Difficulty is the excuse history never accepts." - Edward R. Murrow_

No two people react to the same situation in a similar way. Here are examples of two legendary personalities who were faced with a very similar situation, but thier responses were diagonally apart. Hindus have elevated one but only recognise the other..

INDIA'S OWN SEALS

*INDIA TO RAISE ITS OWN  SEALs*

The Daily Pioneer  Friday, 18 Jan 2019

            India will soon have an elite unit of commandos drawn from the three Services to conduct special missions of strategic interest to the country. Named Armed Forces Special Operations Division, the unit will be on the line of the US Special Operations Command, which was responsible for taking out Osama Bin Laden.

GENERAL JFR JACOB

Who was Lt Gen JFR Jacob? Here's all you need to know about the 1971 Indo-Pak war hero
1971 Indo-Pakistan war hero Lt Gen JFR Jacob passed away today morning at the age of 93. Here's all you need to know about him.

Retired Indian Army Lieutenant General JFR Jacob passed away on Wednesday morning at the age of 93. He is best remembered for his role in bringing victory to India in the 1971 Indo-Pakistan War, and the liberation of Bangladesh. Here's all you need to know about this hero:

Who was JFR Jacob?

BOGIBEEL BRIDGE- DIBRUGARH

ENGINEERING MARVELS  -  MY MEMOIRS OF OLDEN TIMES WHEN WE USED TO CROSS THESE STRETCHES ON ELEPHANT BACK.

WHAT A CHANGE NOW WITH BRIDGES FUNCTIONAL

Dear Fellow Veterans,

 1.   For a moment please let me take my friends who have served in the  East,  South of Brahmputra River in 70s and earlier will recall that there was just one bridge carrying Road as well as Meter Gauge train to Gauhati . Before this bridge came up trains and road transport would terminate on the North Bank,  passengers ferried cross and put into waiting train on the South Bank in Gauhati for on ward journey into the inner land unknown to the Nation. 

TRUISMS

Truisms --for those of us who are mature!!

- Today a man knocked on my door and asked for a small donation towards the local swimming pool, so I gave him a glass of water.

- I changed my password to "incorrect" so whenever I forget it the computer will say, "Your password is incorrect."

Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

न्यायाधीश_1973

और आज वही लोग न्यायाधीशों की आज़ादी की बात करते हैं?
1973 में इंदिरा गाँधी ने न्यायमूर्ति A.N. रे को भारत के मुख्य न्यायाधीश के रूप में बैठा दिया वो भी तब जब उनसे वरिष्ठ न्यायधीशों की लिस्ट जैसे न्यायमूर्ति JM शेलात, KS हेगड़े और AN ग्रोवर सामने थी. अंततः हुआ यह कि नाराज़गी के रूप में इन तीनों न्यायधीशों ने इस्तीफा दे दिया. इसके बाद कांग्रेस ने पार्लियामेंट में जवाब दिया, 'यह सरकार का काम है कि किसे मुख्य न्यायधीश रखें और किसको नहीं और हम उसी को बिठाएंगे जो हमारी विचारधारा के पास हो.'

WPRLD WAR - II - INDIAN VICTORY MOSTLY FORGOTTEN

A Largely Indian Victory in World War II, Mostly Forgotten in India
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/22/world/asia/a-largely-indian-victory-in-world-war-ii-mostly-forgotten-in-india.html

By GARDINER HARRIS JUNE 21, 2014

REMEMBRANCE AT THE BATTLEFIELD Ningthoukhangjam Moirangningthou, still living in a house at the foot of a hill that was the site of some of the fiercest fighting, recalled the battle. Credit Gardiner Harris/The New York Times

KOHIMA, India — Soldiers died by the dozens, by the hundreds and then by the thousands in a battle here 70 years ago. Two bloody weeks of fighting came down to just a few yards across an asphalt tennis court.

INDIANS - TRUE MIRROR

TRUE MIRROR FOR INDIANS

By Dr. David Frawley, (American Institute of Vedic Studies, New Mexico, U..S.A.)

A defeatist tendency exists in the psyche of modern Indians perhaps unparalleled in any other country today. An inner conflict bordering on a civil war rages in the minds of the country's elite. The main effort of its cultural leaders appears to be to pull the country down or remake it in a foreign image, as if little Indian and certainly nothing Hindu was worthy of preserving or even reforming.

CRIBBING - A FASHIONABLE GLORY ONE SEEKS

 'A G BEWOOR' bewoor45@gmail.com[iafhistory] <iafhistory@yahoogroups.com> wrote:

1.    It is fashionable and proof that You Have Arrived, to be able to say nasty things about our colleagues, senior or junior, behind the veil of Retired Veteran, freedom of speech, Right to Information and so on. If one can write about the incompetence of serving air marshals even better. It all gets published in this egroup, veterans group, Air Force group and from there by WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter across the globe. That is the glory we seek?  Better to be silent and let others think you are stupid, rather than key in derogatory remarks, hit the Send button and remove doubts.

TIPU SULTAN

TIPU SULTAN

Excerpts from Tipu's letters as researched by the distinguished Kerala historian K. M. Panicker, which he reviewed in the Bhasha Poshini magazine, August 1923:

1. Letter dated March 22, 1788, to Abdul Kadir: "Over 12,000 Hindus were honoured with Islam. There were many Namboodri Brahmins among them. This achievement should be widely publicised among the Hindus. Then the local Hindus should be brought before you and converted to Islam. No Namboodri Brahmin should be spared. "

NAVAL_WIFE

*When Wife speaks husband must listen, But when a Fauji wife speaks World must listen.*

 It was 35th NDA get together at NDA when Mrs Sangeeta, wife of Cdr Asheet Malik , 72 year, Veteran, spoke and what a speech it was ---👇

I am Sangeeta, wife of your course mate Asheet Malik.  I stand here having been requested to say a few words about my journey in the Navy by none other than the prime organizer of the 35th Course golden Jubilee get-together Sartaj Sassoon.  Thank you very much Sartaj for asking me to speak. And Dubby where are you? Raise your hand please.  I must ask you to explain the reason for your suggesting my name to Sartaj and calling up and insisting that I must speak. Thank You Dubby nevertheless.  It isn't easy to say no to you.  

HINDUs - FASHION TO CONDEMN THEMSELVES

LETS BE HINDUS 

A Hindu Swami to talk. A Hindu temple for its background. A crowded hall of a Hindu audience, and the subject for discussion. " Let Us Be Hindus." Strange! It sounds like a ridiculous paradox and a meaningless contradiction. I can very well see that you are surprised at the audacity of this sadhu (swami)!

Insurgency OPs

WHO HAS FAILED THE SOLDIERS?

The Supreme Court's verdict on the petition of 700 odd soldiers and officers was out on 30th Nov. They had petitioned that they be protected from prosecution by law in case of collateral deaths in disturbed areas where they are deployed in counter insurgency operations. If you are dealing with an opponent who is wielding the gun and fires at you, or has an intention of firing it with an intention to kill, there is no option left with a soldier expect to fire back to protect his life.

KARTARPUR - A BRIDGE TOO FAR

A BRIDGE TOO FAR - KARTARPUR CORRIDOOR

Kartarpur corridor beckons, but Vajpayee's attempt at Lahore bus service was similarly pregnant with possibility .  Vivek Katju

Prime Minister Narendra Modi has imparted an extraordinarily hopeful, if not transformative, dimension to the India-Pakistan decision to develop the Kartarpur Sahib corridor. In recalling the fall of the Berlin wall and invoking the blessings of Guru Nanak to make the corridor a 'bridge between the two peoples',

AYODHYA - की कहानी जिसे पढ़कर आप रो पड़ेंगे

अयोध्या की कहानी जिसे पढ़कर आप रो पड़ेंगे!!!!!!!

कृपया इस लेख को पढ़ें, तथा प्रत्येक हिन्दू मित्रों को अधिक से अधिक शेयर करें।

जब बाबर दिल्ली की गद्दी पर आसीन हुआ उस समय जन्म भूमि सिद्ध महात्मा श्यामनन्द जी महाराज के अधिकार क्षेत्र में थी। महात्मा श्यामनन्द की ख्याति सुन कर ख्वाजा कजल अब्बास मूसा आशिकान अयोध्या आये ।

HOME COOKING - FUTURE

Home cooking....soon will be a forgotten skill and art!! 

I am totally frustrated to watch an advert by one of these Food Delivery companies where Mother and Son playing video game, son stops the game and says he is hungry, the super mom takes out mobile phone, open the App and orders food on-line and they start playing again.

Now this looks very ordinary, but think about it what culture we are getting into, the child's mind is conditioned to the thinking, if you are hungry, order online.....the food delivered to your doorstep is not just food....it is Diabetes, obesity and all other life threatening companions are made part of your life.

A DRINK WITH A FIELD MARSHAL

*A DRINK WITH A FIELD MARSHAL.*

A Sam Bahadur story, penned by an unknown merchant banker, pulled out of the archives... ❤

Two and a half decades ago I was a merchant banker, a stint in my career which probably gave me some of my most memorable moments. But the cherry on top of that very motley cake was when I was asked to be present at the press and brokers' conferences to launch a certain company's maiden public issue. Not that these conferences were unusual, one was perpetually in and out of them those days: but this was out of the ordinary, for the Chairman of the host company would be present himself, and the worthy was no less than Field Marshal Sam Maneckshaw.

OUR PROSTRATE GLAND

PROSTRATE GLAND 

🚑🚑🚑The Prostate Gland and its effect on us , (men only). Read it and apply, esp the part on diet. Useful for all MEN over-40: A useful article / talk on Benign Prostate Hyperplasia (BPH) or in simple terms, Enlarged Prostate. Diet is the most important part of this talk which is something within our control; and it works.

FULL TEXT OF PROSTATE HEALTH AWARENESS LECTURE MEN MUST READ

HAL - IS IT A LIABILITY

HINDUSTAN AERONAUTICAL LIMITED 

*Article by Wg Cdr Arjun Swaminathan on FB about HAL.

* This is what is called Bunkum. White lies to cover up. The mediocre HAL first spoke, out of propriety & issued negative statements after bringing reproach to the defence aviation.  RAGA & his dolts latched on to this half baked input of an inefficient organisation ? When Nirmala Sitaraman gave the congress a tongue lashing in parliament & called HALs bluff and strongly refuted their productivity, they are coming up with a major cover up ops. HAL is a blood sucking vampire. Korwa near Amethi has till date remained a termite/parasite due to Gandhi family patronage. 

CRUCIAL YEARS OF AGING

CRUCIAL YEARS IN AGING

● To have Long Life, the 10 years from 70 to 79 years old are crucial! 

Israeli scholars have found that  70-79 years old is a dangerous period. During this period, various organs decline rapidly. It is a frequent period of various geriatric diseases, and it is often prone to hyperlipemia, arteriosclerosis, hypertension, and diabetes.

TOTAL KNEE JOINT REPLACEMENT

TOTAL KNEE JOINT REPLACEMENT

Most patients undergoing total knee replacement surgery want to know when they'll be able to return to their normal life. Questions about "recovery time" are common. There are many factors that can affect recovery time, but typically patients can return to normal life activities within 3 to 6 months.